sometimes, people don’t understand that we are hated for being autistic. “But I don’t hate autistic people!”.
That’s right! Because you don’t know how autistic people are.
You know, people never bullied me for being autistic. Because neither me nor they had the terminology. Nah, they punished me for being weird. And what made me weird to their eyes? I spoke weird and often stumbled, and I spoke like a grownup anyway, and I wouldn’t shut up about Ancient Greece. I moved weird too, because I was (am) really clumsy, and I didn’t have any friends. I was boring and didn’t catch jokes (made at my expense) and I didn’t look them in the eye, and so on and on.
If you asked any of the people who bullied me for years whether they hate autistic people, they’d say “no!”. Because they don’t hate autistic people, but oh boy do they hate weird people. Perhaps they don’t hate autistic people, but surely they hated me for being obviously autistic.
I’ve been trying to explain this concept to a lot of people. You did a really good job summing it up.
ive seen people online claim to support autistic people and then kind of mock/ostracize others for not immediately picking up on all the unwritten online social rules
So the short version of the story is that my Dad left us earlier this year, my mum doesnt have a job, and i am currently unable to work due to extreme anxiety issues and an upcoming mental evaluation in a couple months.
Since he left my dad has been giving us barely enough money to get by and has been paying the bills for the house.
Today he told us that he is going to stop paying for our phone and internet bills and will be giving us even less money for food.
My Dad has always been an emotionally abusive bastard and i dont want to have to beg him to keep supporting us, so i am begging all of you instead to donate some money to my paypal so i can cover our internet bill and phone bills and get some food shopping without having to go ask him.
My Paypal is harrysevhickey@gmail.com and anything you could donate will help us a lot.
Im going to start looking for a job again to try and support my family and am also going to start looking into how divorces work in the uk so i can help my mum find some legal solution to this whole situation.
Please could you share this post around if you can to help us out even if you cant donate it would help a lot, thank you all.
to anyone who donates $5 or more I’ll draw you a bust sketch. Just lemme know your paypal Email when inquiring for a sketch so that I can confirm that you did donate. Examples below vvv
Donate at least $5 to Frost to get a bust sketch from me, examples above ^^^
really weird to think that samus aran, the woman who was raised by alien birds and has had to fight multiple parasitic alien clones of herself, probably has had the most normal life out of all the major nintendo protagonists
Mario: *teams up with a baby version of himself to fight alien mushroom people*
Link: *gets transformed into a wolf by traveling between different dimensions due to shadow magic*
Kirby: *has a rogues gallery consisting of everything from a magician cartoon mouse to reality-warping god machines that live in space*
Samus Aran: *goes to an alien planet, beats up some jerks, collects her paycheck, goes home and reheats some leftover ravioli and passes out in front of the tv*
The only reason Samus wears the Zero Suit for Smash Bros is so nobody knows her real off-mission wardrobe is an oversized t-shirt with an unidentifiable stain near the collar and a pair of shorts with the word “JUICY” written in an alien language written across the butt
I still find it fucking insane that we can just put things in the tag and jack might see, he might interact with it, he might buy a fucking hat someone recommends. He feels in some ways like another community member, it’s so special this relationship that he has with us 💚
My mom had a stroke on the 16th and to help her I’m missing a lot of work and a lot of money. Other than when I’m visiting her I have a good bit of free time during the day and I’d like to make up at least a little for the money I’m losing.
I’m opening up cell shaded only commissions for $40 for one character and +$20 for extra characters. No complex BGs at this time. If you do want a background we can talk about the price.
Because at this time I am desperate I will do NSFW but I will not post to this account, nsfw is an extra $5-15 depending on what you want. I can also do furry. I also retain the right to refuse any commissions I do not feel comfortable with.
Here are some examples of cell shaded images I have done recently
Please I appreciate all the help you can give even if its just reblogging this vs liking it.
Message me (not ask) and we can begin talking about your commission!!
Hey y’all, I’m not really one to do this but I’m in a tight spot. My beloved dog has been unable to walk properly for almost half a year now. I have been trying to save up money from my job, but college expenses have prevented it from staying. Anything counts, it’s just really heartbreaking to see my dog who loved to go on walks so much, drag herself around the house.
A good friend of mine can use a little help for her li’l dog to get some mobility. She’s a wonderful person and works really hard but college eats up all her funds so the poor thing hasn’t been able to get what she needs.
Please consider a small donation if you’re able and willing! It’d help her at least have one less thing to stress about among all the others with college.
i’ve been thinkin about this but never posted bc me n a grand total of 2 other ppl talk about this but. i like to think bain, twitch, and bile were all super tight back in the day and made up bain’s old crew (or his main 1 at least). like some sort of proto-payday
i also like to think they all peaked mid-ish 90s so u have them w that cheesy heist movie energy. flower shirts, bank jobs and unintended bromance. jus 3 crime boys doin what crime boys do
i almost wrote a full blown fic abt this too like. i gave the goddam escape driver a backstory. they’re practically my damn ocs at this point but i lov these crime boys too much…
My mother died in October 2018, and I already have a post raising money for her hospital expenses here.
But I left something out of this post and its continuations.
My older sister has been severely physically, mentally, socially and medically abusive to me almost my entire life. She has caused me deep, psychological trauma that I will never be able to fully recover from.
When my mother died, my sister promised she would make the effort to change herself into a better person.
She, of course, lied to me.
I am not safe here.
-She often physically attacks me and berates me for every little thing I do or say.
-She gaslights me constantly, making me question my own perception of realitly, even though I know i’m right.
-She digs through any packages or mail that I receive,
-She forces me to work through physical and emotional exhaustion and demands I respond to her every beck and call. Often attacking me if I refuse.
-She completely stopped buying groceries for the house. Instead, she only feeds herself and her husband, leaving me to starve.
-She refuses to allow me to learn how to drive, forcing me to stay reliant on her and her husband as well as refusing to take me anywhere to get the things I need (like a learners permit or food.)
-She has stolen the house from me. My momma promised that I would receive this house when she died but my sister stole it and now holds the ability to kick me out and make me homeless.
-She refuses to put me on her insurance even though shes claiming me as a dependent, so if I ever get hurt or sick, i’d definitely plunge myself into debt
-She isolates me and forces me to stay locked in my room as she doesn’t want to look at me.
-She has multiple times threatened to take away my ability to access the internet (which I need to access college-work as well as any form of escape from her abuse.)
-She removed the heater from my room. Our house does not have proper insulation and it gets well under 30 degrees in here in winter.
-She talks bad about me in public, therefore making me look like a waste of space in the public eye.
This is only a few examples of her abuse.
I am Autistic and I have Anxiety, Depression, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
I am also nearly legally blind with a permanently dislocated left arm and a bad case of asthma.
The reason I say this, is because my sister is also severely ableist and almost every conversation I have with her usually ends with her demeaning me about my multiple disabilities or just flat out calling me the r-slur.
I am not safe here.
But I do have a plan to escape.
In two years time I will graduate from my college, allowing me the opportunity to escape from her abuse. My best friend and the platonic love of my life @transscourge has offered me the opportunity to live with him.
This is not out of the blue either.
My living with him is, and always has been, both of our end-game plans.
However, he lives in Oklahoma and I live in Louisiana, and even if/when I learn how to drive the car that I now own, it will never be able to make that big of a trip.
I have a job with my college, but i’m only allowed to work 17 hours a week receiving $7.25 an hour.
This is not enough. Most of it goes to my own tuition and the things I need to survive.
Which is why I need your help to pull this off.
I am 20 years old and will turn 21 in March 2019.
If all goes well, I will graduate in the fall of 2020.
I have two years to raise enough money to do the following:
-Buy new copies of my social security card and birth certificate as my sister has made mine inaccessible as well as a learners permit so I may legally learn how to drive. (there is no public transport where I live. This is imperative.)
-Finally receive the official papers for my autism diagnosis as well as legally confirming my other
disabilities so I may try to apply for
disability
benefits.
-Pay 300 dollars to the driving school so I canLearn how to drive.
-Buy proper winter clothing as I don’t own any as a Louisianian.
-Raise enough money to either take a train all the way to Oklahoma or rent a U-Haul and drive there. or repair my mother’s 17 year old car enough so that it will actually survive the trip in the first place…
I desperately need your help to be able to pull this off.
me: i want a nice character description sheet. so i can like… say what their voice sounds like. and stuff. and whether they prefer coffee to tea character description sheet: What are your character’s relations with their parents? me, realizing my character exists in a vacuum for the sole purpose of looking cute when i draw them:
I was in line at Aldi and this girl with two toddlers in front of me had her card declined and she looked so fucking sad and said “let me call my husband real quick” and it was only 18 dollars, so I just paid for it, and she was very sweet and then as she walked off, the lady behind me said `”You know that was probably a scam, right?” and like, even if it was, like what a sad fucking scam, right? 18 dollars at the Aldi. If you’re “scamming” me for some Tyson chicken and apple juice and cauliflower, then just take my fucking money.
“A scam” people are fucking wild.
This happened to me, too. A woman had used WIC for the majority of her stuff (which I say from personal experience is such a long and embarrassing process) and to buy the remainder of her groceries, which included diapers and wipes, she used a card, and it got declined. I bought the other $30 of her groceries because hey, I’ve been there, and now I’m not. She was extremely emotional and began to cry and even hugged me. My mom called me on the drive home and could tell I had been crying myself, asked what was wrong, and when I told her what happened, she berated me for being “duped.” I couldn’t believe she could be so disappointed in one of her children for doing something- nice? Is that the hill you want to die on? Getting mad about people needing groceries?
I once paid for a woman’s bill at the vet…it wasn’t a big one, but she was trying to pay for some medication for her dog, and her card was declined. And her lip started trembling, and she says “I don’t get paid until Tuesday, would he be ok until then?”
So I just told them to add the $20 something onto my bill, and I thought she was going to break down crying right there.
And I don’t care if it was a scam or not. Just do nice things for people sometimes.
Do good recklessly.
I think “Do good recklessly” would be fantastic word art to hang on one’s wall. Artistic people, go!
So this has happened to me but from the other side. Several years ago when my oldest was around three or so, I had my debit card decline at Walmart. It wasn’t a scam or a mistake, I was genuinely broke. Out of money. I checked my bank and discovered I had something like 7 dollars left to my name and a hungry kid and nothing to eat at home. So I sat there trying to come up with the best way to stretch that tiny amount of money to feed my kid. Not even to feed me. I can live on popcorn or something if I have to but my kid was three and he had to eat. So there I am trying really hard not to cry while I slowly take things out of my basket to get it down to under 7 bucks, when a lady tapped me on the shoulder. I looked up and she smiled at me and started putting the things back in my cart. I opened my mouth to tell her that I didn’t have the money for them but she stopped me right away and said “Don’t worry about it. It’s gonna be fine.” Then she handed the cashier her credit card and said “Ring up all of it.” My kid got to eat because of her. I got to eat because of her. I had laundry soap and deodorant because of her. She could’ve just ignored me silently struggling in that line. She could’ve decided I was a scam and gone home feeling good about avoiding being duped. But instead she chose to help me and she saved us. So maybe the person struggling in front of you is trying to put one over on you or maybe they are just sad and broke and trying to figure out what to do. You get to decide which you want to believe and what you want to do. But I’ll tell y’all, no one has ever been more beautiful to me than that lady in that line who saved me and my baby. Be like her. Be beautiful.
Do good recklessly
DO BETTER. BE BETTER. STRIVE TO BE BETTER.
DO GOOD RECKLESSLY
One time, my dad and I were living the grocery store and there was a guy outside asking for money to buy some stuff to take home for his kids. It was around Christmas time. My dad asked him if he could give him groceries instead of money, and the guy immediately said yes, so my dad gave him one of everything we bought (meat, rice, some chocolates, milk, oil). At that time, my dad hadn’t gotten his paycheck because the company he worked for was going through a tough time, but he didn’t care, he saw an opportunity to help someone and he did.
Another time, my dad gave 50 bucks to a guy who said he needed to buy medicine for his kids. I told my dad he was probably going to spend the money on alcohol or something, but my dad said that “whether he was lying or not says something about HIS character, but hearing someone in need and choosing not to help when I have the means to says something about mine”.
