scarletrosensfw:

Well Ecaxas, you haven’t exactly given me a question, more a list of personal grievances with your situation. Let me see if I can still help you.

Love is a powerful motivation. We all crave it, we all need it. We seek affirmation and acceptance. We want to feel there are those, if not at least one other person who admires us and makes us feel needed and wanted. To feel special. This desire is universal no matter what culture or creed we are from. It’s not unreasonable to feel upset at ourselves when faced with loneliness, thinking and feeling there is something wrong with us as an explanation as to why we don’t have what society tells us is freely available if we seek it. Loneliness can birth many dark emotions that we turn inwardly, that is simply because we’re a social animal. Even the most introverted among us still craves contact and acknowledgment.

All that being said, it is my philosophy that love starts within. No matter what, there must be some love you have for yourself. If you’re unhappy with things you’ve done or what you’ve become you have to work through that. We can’t undo your past, that’s impossible. The only thing acceptable is then to take steps to alter what you are now. If you’re upset that other people are being “lovey dovey” while you don’t have someone like that to be with, recognize that is a purely external thing. If you’re upset that you seem unable to get a date, then get out there and do something about that! You’re nervous, and guess what? So are thousands and thousands of more people out there. In fact, for those who have used online dating services worldwide, 1/3 reports to having successful encounters, 1/3 report to having bad ones and 1/3 give up before they even have their first date set up online.

Face your fears, the worst that can happen if you begin asking people out is that someone will say no. That’s fine, there are millions more out there looking for someone just like you. As my grandmother used to say, you can’t win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket.

If you need more specific advice, I’m here and I’ll gladly give it. Same goes to anyone else trying to overcome their fears about dating. I wish you the best in finding your “älskar dig”.