thatdiabolicalfeminist:

basically:

• it is not a virtue to not set boundaries
• ignoring your own wants and needs is not a healthy way to show love
• people worth loving will respect your boundaries
• people worth loving will not want you to set aside your own wants and needs to make them more comfortable
• ‘having no boundaries at all’ describes a person who is very hurt, not a person who is very virtuous
• suffering for others’ comfort is not how you be a good person, it is just how you become very hurt
• sometimes you need to make others uncomfortable in order to get your needs met
  
• your needs are more important than others’ comfort
• your comfort is equally important to others’ comfort
• making other people uncomfortable is not, in itself, ethically wrong or morally dubious